We spent so much of our lives feeding our body, feeding our emotions and feeding our mental well-being, but when was the last time we fed our soul?
When we’re being “body healthy,” we feed our bodies healthy foods such as fruits, vegetables and protein while we remove the sugar and carbs.
When we’re being “emotionally healthy,” we feed our bodies with kindness, happiness and light. We embrace feelings of anger, hostility and sadness because we accept them for what they are. We remove the feelings of guilt we may have for any of our emotions.
When we are being “mentally healthy,” we feed our bodies with healthy, positive self-esteem building thoughts and remove the negative derogatory things we think about ourselves.
How do you feed your soul? How do you feed the thing that makes you different from every other person on this planet? Honestly, the answer lies within you! You are unique because your soul is one of a kind and only you can find out the true “fuel” for your soul.
For me, I feed my soul with passion. Painting, coloring, writing, music, reading, yoga these are the things I’m padsionate about! Your soul needs to be fed by the one thing in this world that you find the most enjoyment from. That is the food for your soul. For some of you, that night be taking a hike in nature, for some it might be laying in your bed at night breathing deep, it might be in prayer or meditation. You will know when you find your fuel source because the light in you will smile! You’ll be able to breathe in deep and exhale light and love. With each breath you take, remove the stress that sits on your shoulders; the thing that eats at your belly and makes it hard to breathe!
Go forth and find your passion; feed your soul and embrace the uniqueness that is you while spreading your gift to others.
We all have THOSE people in our lives. You know, the ones I’m talking about: THOSE whom you are forever doing things for but never getting anything in return; THOSE that ONLY call when they need something from you; THOSE who belittle the decisions you’ve made in YOUR life because they would have done it differently. Yeah! THOSE people!
Why do we keep them in our lives? Why do we always feel obligated to be the “bigger person”? WHY do WE continue to bend over backwards to please THOSE people who have zero regard for our feelings?
Because we want to BE the friend we want to have! That’s admirable, that’s sweet, and that’s just NOT realistic when dealing with THOSE people!
See, THOSE people are Trolls at the Toxic Bridge. In order for you to pass and remain their friend/child/parent/sibling/significant other, you must cross the Toxic Bridge. THOSE people have made you believe that in order for YOU to be happy, THOSE people must be happy. They have manipulated their way into your heart and mind. They do this by using the best qualities you have, a great heart and a loving nature! THOSE people KNOW you’ll be there and they rely on that fact to get what they want from you. If they have caused you hurt, it’s because you did something to them to deserve it. THOSE people collect their troll fee in emotions. With their connection with you as the prize on the other side of the Toxic Bridge. They will emotionally and mentally tax you BEFORE you start down the bridge of no end. To this I say: BURN THE DAMN THING DOWN! BURN THE TOXIC BRIDGE! No more paying THOSE people a toll to be put through hell. No more going out of our way to please THOSE people who are NEVER able to be pleased. No more putting your wants and feelings on hold because THOSE people say that you should. BURN THE BRIDGE! You don’t HAVE to cross it. You don’t have to pay the troll fee anymore! BURN THE TOXIC BRIDGE!! KNOW that THOSE people NEED YOU, not the other way around! THOSE people do nothing for you and you do everything for them! BURN THE TOXIC BRIDGE!
Why burn the bridge and not just walk away? Because if you don’t burn the troll’s bridge, THOSE people will chase you down to get you back and then they repaint the old bridge and demand their fee; however, if you BURN THE TOXIC BRIDGE down you can get back into your journey and start looking for your rainbows! Use the glow of the fire to light your path to happiness! YOU deserve it!
Our children hear what we say about ourselves, especially as mothers! As much as we tell our daughters how beautiful they are and how their smile and laughter brighten the room, we TEACH them to be critical of their body when they listen to us criticize ourselves. For example: you get your daughter up for school, put her in a pretty dress and tell her how beautiful she looks and she smiles. She looks at you and tells you that you’re beautiful too! Without hesitation, you say to your daughter that you are a mess; you continue, complaining that your hair is stringy, you are fat and don’t look good in your clothes. Saying those things about yourself teaches your daughter to not be able to take a complement and to start looking for all the bad things or what she feels are bad things about herself. It’s a vicious cycle that we have done for centuries between mothers and daughters. We are taught that we could never be pretty enough or our teeth won’t be straight enough or our hair is too curly or our legs are too fat because those are genetics and that’s what our mothers already think about themselves. It’s a horrible vicious cycle and one that can easily be broken. All it takes is for YOU to treat YOU the way that you treat your child. Tell yourself that you’re beautiful; tell your children that mommy has such pretty eyes and that theirs are just like yours! Say thank you when your child compliments you and compliment them back. TEACH them to love themselves by loving yourself. Stop giving voice to the things WE’VE been taught to think about ourselves and start giving voice to the things we want our daughters to love about themselves.
Does the world view us differently or do we now view the world differently? Here’s the thing, before weight loss, most of us shunned eye contact, never spoke up and blended into the back ground. Why? Because we’ve been conditioned to by years of bullies; because, for years, we were safer to blend in and not bring notice to ourselves, but that has changed! We WANT to be noticed; we WANT to be treated like we matter and belong! So, does the world treat us differently? YES AND NO! Yes, it treats us differently than before because we demand it to! It’s the “I’m standing right here look at me!” It’s the head held high and your shoulders back. It’s the “I DESERVE that promotion!” Or “you WILL NOT treat me that way!” It’s our own inner confidence breaking the chains of the confinement we’ve placed on ourselves. YES, the world is full of bullies and people who don’t realize they’re dealing with a former “fat person”. They actually look AT you instead of through you. They smile more, make eye contact and offer a wave, but so much of that is because of what you’re now projecting out from the inside. So keep growing stronger in yourself and don’t let the world make you hide!
As the leaves fall to the ground I am reminded things must die for new life to be reborn. We must shed the spring beauty we have grown out of. We must hit the ground yellow and brown. HOWEVER We don’t have to lay there and rot we can drift on the wind and make “death” a beautiful thing. A dance, a celebration, of the life we loved and the hope of what’s to come. Then We will be covered in a blanket of innocent white snow. Pure in our intentions to grow. While the world doesn’t see us there we are planting the seeds for the new life we wish to be born in the spring.
Some of us will get torn up. Some of us will get muddy some will be run over by life. But even at our most broken and battered we have the amazing ability to still drift on that wind. To still dance in the sun. To still plant the seeds to grow in the spring. Be your change. See your beauty. Embrace your hope. Encourage your new life. Renew yourself just like the earth, it’s our nature, it’s our instinct, it’s our RIGHT to change.